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| From Engaged to Married |
So, you’ve gone from being engaged to being married.
It’s not just about swapping rings and saying “I do,” it’s about trading your old lifestyle for a completely new one.
Remember that sweet little sliver of independence you had as an engaged person? Yeah, well... poof! Gone.
In marriage, there’s no more “I’m my own person” hours. Nope, now you’re a team, and your solo time? That’s pretty much history.
Sure, you
might still get a bit of freedom, but here’s the kicker: no matter how loose
the rules are, you’ve got someone else permanently in your life-loop.
Running late
from work? Better call your spouse. Skipping dinner because you’re craving chips
with your coworkers? They need to know.
Oh, and if you forget to pick up the dry cleaning? You’re now responsible for alerting the team so someone can save the day.
Marriage is like a full-time life update
system.
At first,
you might feel like you’re reporting to your parents again (and yes, you might
rebel a bit). But think about it for a sec. Imagine this: your spouse is always
home by 6:25 pm. By 7:20, dinner’s cold, and still no sign of them. By 8:25,
you’re halfway through dialing the Police, convinced they’ve been kidnapped by
aliens.
They finally
stroll in, all smiles, apologizing for being late because of a meeting, while
you’ve aged 10 years in worry. You don’t want to be the reason for that kind of
panic, do you? So, yeah, keep them in the loop!
Oh, and gone
are the days when you could casually say, "Sure, I’ll grab 'chipo' with you
guys tonight!" without a second thought. Now, you’ve got to check in
first.
I know, I
know—it’s a bummer if they say no, but what if they’ve planned a romantic
evening that you didn’t know about? Worth checking, right?
Consideration
is the name of the game in early marriage.
Is your music too loud? Do you hog all the blankets? Snore? Yeah, these are the things you start paying attention to, not because you want to be perfect, but because you’re now part of a partnership. And when those little arguments pop up, meet in the middle.
No power struggles here—just two people figuring it out
together.
So, in those first few months of marriage, everything might feel a bit strange and not exactly like you imagined. But if you both add a healthy dose of consideration to the love, trust, and respect you already have, things will settle down, and you'll start doing things for each other naturally, without any resentment or sense of obligation.
Welcome to the adventure!
