Facebook can wreck your relationships in the following 3 ways.

Wrecking your relationship could just be a click away.

Social media is one of the greatest tools on the planet for staying connected, but ironically, it's also potentially one of the most dangerous forces for tearing relationships apart.

Here are a few of the most dangerous and destructive behaviours that you should avoid at all costs. If you don't have the self-control to stop doing these things online, you, your relationships and the world would probably be a lot better off if you just deleted all your social media accounts.

If you want to protect your relationships and your own reputation, NEVER do the following…

• 1. Publicly criticize or vent about someone

Especially in marriage, one of your primary roles as a spouse is to protect your spouse. That protection is not only a physical protection but a protection of their honour. It is never appropriate to air someone else's dirty laundry in a public forum just to make yourself feel justified in your frustration towards them. This is also not a way to promote healing or growth in your relationship; it just creates a cycle of more resentment and dysfunction. Praise people publicly and if there's ever a need for criticism, always give it privately and humbly.

• 2. Post anything at all while you're angry or intoxicated

Anger and alcohol have one thing in common…they both make you say things that you'll usually regret later. Ranting while you're angry is kind of like throwing up…it might make you feel better, but it will make everyone around you feel sick.

• 3. Belittle people with opinions or beliefs different than your own

Especially in election seasons, I watch in disbelief as my "friends" from both sides of the aisle sling mud at one another on Facebook. There's rarely healthy or meaningful dialogue or debate; only insults and generalizations. I'm a person of strong convictions and I hope you are as well, but climbing on to an online soapbox and shouting insults at those who disagree with us isn't a way to build relationships or win people to our way of thinking; it's just another way to damage relationships.

Here's the bottom line…every word you speak (whether online or in person) has lasting effects, so let wisdom guide your words. When I was a kid, Mom would say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!" I think that's especially good advice when it comes to social media.

Here's one final nugget of ancient wisdom to consider before you post a rant online…"Whoever belittles another lacks sense, but an intelligent person remains silent." Proverbs 11:12

Why Nice and believing Guys (born again) are Really Just Men That Women Aren’t Ready for in Church.

Ready for a real relationship? Stop dating bad guys 'cool' in the name of they are more exciting and appealing than born again church guys who are presumed to be boring. Start looking for a nice guy.

Most ‘nice guys’ in Church i.e. born again men get a bad reception from good born again females. (No, I’m not talking about self-proclaimed “nice guys” who use politeness as currency to attract women — I mean actual kind men).

It’s really a shame, considering that truly nice guys are actually hubby material. Nonetheless, they’re almost always ignored or turned down, overlooked and unwanted.

Instead, women will go for the so called cool guy — the jerk. A woman will go for the “man of mystery” who will never let her get close enough to truly know. In youth meetings at my Church, i have more than often heard girls make statements like this, “Wanaume wa church wanaboo hata hawaongeangi kitu…” Whatever that means or something like, “…hua wamezubaa…”

Women really want nice guys. But they won’t know it for a while — at least, not until they’re ready for a life partner. They still have a lot to learn.

Once a girl becomes a woman and understands what is and isn’t important in life and in a relationship, the nice guy will suddenly become infinitely more appealing.

Girls think that the cool guy is the diamond in the rough…

…until they realize that “cool guy” usually translates into “a thorn in the flesh guy.”

And boy oh boy, are there thorn in the flesh guys in this world.

Women, like men, want excitement in their lives. Women also want someone rare, unique and special. Everybody does. People want what others don’t have because they make them feel special. And since Mom and Dad managed to convince us we’re special, we expect to stay that way.

Women don’t want the nice guy because “nice” sounds a lot like “average.” It’s good, not great; fine, not amazing. Or, at least, that’s how most of us feel.

However, after meeting and dating enough men, most women will realize one thing: It’s much easier to find a cool guy.

And that’s when the tables turn.

Unfortunately, this realization usually comes after years and years of dating so called cool guy just because he took her for an outing and bought her some good gifts while Mr born again was busy praying in arboretum and hence the girl turns down this nice guy. Strangely nice guys get turned down so often that they start to believe being a bad/cool guy is the way to go.

He wants to be nice. But if women want someone who treats them poorly, he may as well give them what they want. I’m not saying women are to blame, but I’ve seen this happen with my own eyes.

The nice guy is the one girls will seek once they’ve made enough mistakes.

Meeting the right person isn’t about finding someone compatible. It’s about rejecting the people you aren’t meant to date. It’s about becoming the person you need to be to make a relationship work.

People learn by making mistakes. The risks we take — and the failure that so often follows — make us better.

Of course, in life, there is no one to tell us about our mistakes and what we can learn from them.

So when it comes to heartache, we don’t always learn from experience. Because learning is, after all, left up to our interpretation.

Women usually find the “nice guy” after they’ve seen other relationships fail time and time again. The nice guy isn’t appealing until you realize he’s exactly what you need.

Unfortunately, you have to date a lot of bad guys to realize this.

Women eventually realize that nice guys can be exciting and spontaneous with the right woman.

Women assume that jerks will make for a more exciting relationship.

And, to be completely honest, this is often the case. Sometimes nice guys are a bit too nice. They’re guessing that kindness is something all women want.

But that’s not true. No one wants just that.

Everyone wants to feel more. We want to be excited and moved; we know that being in love can make us feel that way.

Well, the bad guy/cool guy will make a more exciting relationship. But it won’t be exciting in the way you hope. You will be overwhelmed with emotions, but they won’t be positive ones.

The unborn again will make you feel bad about yourself. He’ll make you feel worried and stressed. He’ll convince you that what you’re feeling is love, when in reality it’s far from it.

Your life will certainly be more exciting, but you’re going to hate it. So what’s the point?

Any relationship can be exciting — the good kind of exciting — if both people work on making it so.

It’s not just up to the man to make your relationship more exciting. Women also need to work on making their relationships exciting.

We all want to be swept off our feet, but one-sided relationships always fail. After all, it is a partnership.

If you don’t believe me, go ahead — date the unbelieving guy. Ignore the nice guy. And then when you change your mind, re-read this article and tell me I’m wrong.

Remember love is blind so they say.

''Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"-2 Corinthians 6:14
OUCH Paul, way to spare people’s feelings! But the truth hurts, right? These days dating a non-believer is starting to become even more common and somewhat accepted within the church with a weak excuse that men in the Church are not outgoing as men out there.
Be blessed, Stay encouraged.