Choosing Your Flower Girls Dress.

Beautiful flower girl-Ahha Xababa.

If you have decided on a flower girl for your wedding, it is time to choose her dress, which can actually be a fun time for her and you. After all, next to the bride, the flower girl will be getting a lot of the oohs and ahhs.

When choosing a flower girl's dress, begin by checking out boutiques that specialize in children’s wedding wear. A regular wedding shop may be able to help, however usually these shops will only adjust adult measurements to fit a small child, which could cause the dress to look disproportionate to the child’s body frame.

Although the bride may already have a design in mind for choosing the flower girls dress, remember that the parents will be paying for it, unless otherwise arranged. Let the flower girls mom and the flower girl, herself give opinions to the dress you are looking at and be sure it is in a price range they can afford.

Remember to keep in mind that little girls grow fast, when choosing your flower girls dress. If you are ordering the dress six months in advance, you may want to add a few inches to the dress, which can then be altered the week before the wedding. Just like with any dress, it will be easier to take it in than adding material to a dress that is too small.

Little girls like to feel like princesses in their dresses. So consider a smaller make to your wedding gown when choosing a flower girls dress. Traditional flower girl dresses are usually white with full, ruffle skirts underneath to give them the bridal look. Flower accented dresses are also popular among flower girls. Use hoop slips to give them that princess look. Keep in mind the material you are selecting. A soft, silky feel will leave your flower girl less fidgety versus and rougher material that will make them itch and feeling uncomfortable.

When choosing your flower girls dress, do not forget to find matching accents for her hair. Decide if you want her hair up or down. With either, adding baby’s breath and ribbons will give her a beautiful look of enchantment. Also let her parents know what type of shoe you would like her to wear with her dress. If you choose a shorter dress, close toe or an open sandal, depending on the time of year, would be appropriate. If the dress is long and flowing, covering her feet, think about letting her wear white slippers. This will ensure her comfort and make the event more enjoyable for everyone.

Flower girls add a cute touch to any wedding. Let her carry a beautiful bouquet or throw flower pedals down the aisle as she walks, which is usually the tradition of her role. If the child you choose is too small to walk, decorate a red wagon in a lot of white lace and flowers and let an older child, or bridesmaid pull the wagon down the aisle.

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Common Marriage Problems – Neglect

Couples in trouble

It is so easy to work your life away, forget about your family, your partner and your relationship. People putting work before family is such a common marriage problem that seems to pop up time and time again.

Its ok for a while, your partner will understand that you need to put some time and effort into your career especially if it generates a good income but as time goes on and the W word pops up again and again, even if your partner enjoys the benefits of your efforts, all patience fades and the realization sets in that work is more important!!

I used to know a couple who spent most of their life apart. He worked nights and she worked days. She enjoyed spending the money that night shifts generated, loved new clothes, new cars and all the little luxuries a comfortable life style brings but hated her partner being tired when he was at home. They were between a rock and a hard place with him knowing that if he gave up nights bang went the luxuries and more than likely bye bye wife but if he carried on working nights and striving for promotion he was dead in the water anyway. What a choice. Needless to say they never reached a compromise, she wasn’t willing to wait for the promotion and a return to day shifts, so they are no longer married.

Working excessively long hours, travelling a lot and constantly leading separate lives is bound to put a strain on your relationship and it has proven to be a real relationship killer, a common marriage problem that is prolific in the career society. Just look at the number people that are addicted to long unsociable working hours and then see how many of them are still married.

I have only ever met a handful of couples who are truly comfortable with, at best, a weekend relationship and these are couples that have learned and are happy to live independent lives. The problem in their relationships will come when the long hours and travelling comes to an end and they have to learn to live with each other 24/7.

How many partners spend their whole life at work, rarely seeing their children and having little time for their spouse? Their partners so often feel neglected, crave adult company, and as time goes on, the neglected partner’s cries go on ignored the relationship begins to wither and fade and the couple tend to grow apart.

When children are involved it is even more difficult with just one partner having to make sure they are around. That they are the ones there in the mornings and there in the evenings and that they alone have to revolve their whole lives around children and school. Again this pressure on one partner is all too common, a marriage problem that seems to be ignored by spouses who tend to avoid their responsibilities under the misguided understanding that their partners can and are happy to cope.

Those early years, when your children are growing up are very special and are years that can never be recaptured. They aren’t years that should just pass you by at your desk under the false impression that next time your child wants you it will be different, you just need to clear this project and then the next and then the next… It’s never any different.

Children struggle with the concept of work being more important than them and what is going on in their lives. They are too young to understand the concept that their parent is just short sighted, perhaps confused as to what should take priority in their lives. Money doesn’t mean much to a child.

When work takes over your life, no matter what you best intentions are, if your vision isn’t understand and accepted by your family and they aren’t 100% behind you all of the way they will learn to resent the time you spend at your desk rather than with them. They will feel abandoned, unwanted and unloved.

If you want to revolve your life around a work driven environment you must make sure that that your partner has the same all-consuming driving ambition. If either one in a relationship feels that work has taken over the family life it is time to sit down and discuss what is important in to you both. Consider the issues, understand the feelings on both sides, think about the children and work out what is best for the individuals, the relationship and the family as a whole.

Catch this common marriage problem before it develops into something more serious don’t loose your family over something you probably will learn to regret, save your marriage before it’s too late.

How Do You Find the Best Wedding Present Ideas?

 

Best wedding present idea.

Wedding presents are intended to be extraordinary, and they're intended to be enjoyable. Numerous weddings are (regularly) a long way from serious events similar to a festival of the couple and individuals that they love the most.

What would it be advisable for you to be searching for when you get a present for your companions? Or then again how might you discover presents for your wedding gathering, guardians, and others engaged with your wedding? Here are a few inquiries to pose as you start your quest for wedding blessing thoughts.

What are two or three's preferences?

Everybody has things that they like and hate, and that is truly imperative to think about when you're assembling a rundown with the endowments that you need to provide for individuals. In case you're welcome to your wedding, you probably know them alright to have the option to decide this.

Knowing what it is that couples like and aversion can make it that a lot simpler to really select what it is that they'll adore and love for quite a long time to come.

Would it be able to be customized?

In case you're getting something high quality or remarkable, you need to check whether it can really be customized for them. Customized endowments are amazingly extraordinary and they can truly check the event such that they'll recall.

Attempt to be aware of things like spelling, who is changing their name to what, and how they intend to be tended to. On the off chance that you need to ask them, feel free to ask them! They'd prefer you get it right on the item than be left with something that is wrong.

Does it go with the subject of their wedding?

Now and again, it's enjoyable to get something exceptional that goes with the subject, particularly in case you're the lady of the hour or potentially husband to be and you're assembling presents for your wedding party. It turns into a truly exceptional memento that permits your friends and family to take a gander at it and recollect precisely what your festival resembled.

Couples appreciate things that go with their subject too. For instance, assuming a couple has a luau subject for their uncommon day, consider getting them some pleasant things – like mats or divider workmanship – that use that topic too. They'll recollect when they got it!

Is it something that they need (or like something that they need)?

Take a gander at their vault, in the event that they have assembled one. Assuming they have, you need to be certain that you peruse it and see what kinds of things that they have requested. At times, you might have the option to get something almost identical to what's on their library. For instance, on the off chance that they need a cheddar board, cutting board, or wine glasses, you might have the option to get customized alternatives, or ones with a pleasant plan they'll appreciate.

Try not to be reluctant to adhere to the vault.

A few group get apprehensive about utilizing a wedding vault to buy endowments. The truth of the matter is, the cheerful couple set up this is on the grounds that they need or need the things on that rundown. Thus, on the off chance that you adhere to the library, you're not being uncreative – you're simply keeping things basic and getting them what they need and need. You can likewise get them a gift voucher for one of the spots that they have a library!

Search for quality, consistently.

You never need to go modest with regards to assembling blessing thoughts. The truth of the matter is, there are a wide range of spots that you can go to track down the ideal alternatives for gifting. While you can generally get something "for a take" in a manner of speaking, you generally need to be certain that those things are excellent. 

10 lovely words to tell a pregnant woman.

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Pregnant woman in marriage.

1. "You make pregnancy look easy."
2. "That’s the perfect bump I have ever seen."
3. "Being pregnant suits you."
4. "You’re glowing."
5. "You look great."
6. "You are adorable."
   
7. "You are all Belly."
8. "There is no way this baby is number three."
9. “Congratulations.”
10. “You’re the most beautiful pregnant woman I’ve ever seen”

Now that we’ve cleared that up, keep these 10 compliments in mind the next time you see a pregnant lady on the street.

Point to note: Here are a few examples of what NOT to say to a pregnant woman you meet: “You look like you are having twins,” “Are you overdue,” Guess it’s going to be any day now.”

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Christian Sex – 7 Barriers to Fulfilling Married Sexuality.

Many Christian married couples have yet to experience a fulfilling sexuality. Yet, it is an essential ingredient for a vital Christian marriage. 

Couples making love.

Here are 7 barriers to a fun and fulfilling lovemaking for Christian married couples

1. Not knowing what God says about sex.

The first commandment God gave was to engage in sex (Genesis 1: 27-28.) God had just created humanity in His image, commanded them to be fruitful and multiply, and then commented it was good (Genesis 1:31.) Somehow, it seems like this was a priority for Adam and Eve.

2. Talking very little with your spouse about sexuality or your preferences.

When couples can share with their spouse about sexuality or their sexual preferences, intimacy is created. An emotional bond results from the intimate level of vulnerability on a conversational level. A great place to start talking about sex is to share what lovemaking means to you emotionally, how frequent you would like to have sex, and even times of the day or specific days.

3. Engaging out of obligation, rather than enjoyment.

Many believe sex was solely intended for procreation, rather than recreation. To the contrary, the poetic references in the Song of Solomon describe lovemaking that is enjoyable and anticipated. Feel free to have some fun with sex with different positions and places. However, all must be with respect for your spouse’s considerations. I Corinthians 1:4 states that our bodies belong to our mates, not just us. It is written from a spirit of equality, where both spouses are to serve one another, rather than one controlling the other. For one spouse to force the other into sexual behaviors without consent is abusive.

4 Failure to plan.

Many couples, Christians especially, are sexually frustrated. While some of this may be attributed to different sexual appetites, much more is a result of infrequency. Sex is never convenient, but is critical to a vital relationship. Plan for sex like you would any other appointment. Rather than thinking of this as stale, consider that it allows you and your spouse time to plan for the special time together. Planning also alleviates any concerns for sexual deprivation and sexual pressure.

5. Using sex as a reward or punishment.

Sex is often used as a reward for some positive behavior. Or it can be withheld when one spouse is angry with the other. Couples sabotage themselves when their sex life becomes a bartering system. Because of its vulnerability, lovemaking must be unconditional to be meaningful. Find other ways to thank your spouse, and healthy ways to overcome your resentments. 

6. Unresolved sexual abuse issues. 

Sexual abuse issues follow spouses into marriage. Victims of sexual abuse may have an aversion to lovemaking, or experience painful reminders of the past. For some, there may be a distortion of healthy sexuality. If you have been wounded from sexual abuse, realize that you did nothing to deserve this. Furthermore, there is hope. I encourage you to find a counselor that specializes in this area, and begin the road to recovery. It is one thing to survive sexual abuse, and another to overcome it.

 7. Pornography.

The most significant destructive force to a healthy sex life is pornography. And yes, I am talking about Christian marriages. Images are burned into a persons mind, thereby creating an insatiable thirst for more erotic behavior, or harmful behaviors. Some couples have stated the use of pornography enhances their sex life. I disagree. Not only is it degrading, but it fosters empty relationships by focusing on the physical rather than love. If your marriage has been affected by pornography, find a qualified counselor to help you rebuild the intimacy in your marriage.

In my experience as a Christian counselor, a lot of confusion exists amongst married couples regarding a healthy Christian sex life. The reality is that God has given sex as a gift for married couples to embrace rather than tolerate, or misuse. So much of today’s culture promotes a contaminated view of sex. As Christians, lets change our culture by strengthening our marriages with a healthy Christian sexuality.

How to win love back.

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Learning how to win love back may be able to reignite a burned out relationship. 

Love is a truly fickle emotion that can burn out just as quickly and suddenly as it was originally ignited. 

When outside factors, such as money for example, create stress in a relationship that love is most at risk. Once relationship problems become an issue, love can quickly deteriorate with no resolution in sight. Here are some basic strategies that will show you how to win love back:

* Be Honest – Distrust is one of the leading causes of problems in a relationship. It is extremely important that you are honest with your partner on every possible level, even in situations where the truth is painful. This means that you need to be upfront with things that are bothering you, and you also need to be open about every day activities like finances and how you are doing at work. No one likes to feel like they constantly have to watch over their significant other, so if you want to learn how to win love back, you need to make a commitment to honesty.

* Be Encouraging – Love is all about appreciating one another for who you are and this is a big step in learning how to win love back. Your partner may have different goals and interests than you. The key is to embrace them even if you do not agree with them, and support them with all of your heart. Encourage growth in your partner’s interests, and you will be promoting growth in your relationship.

* Be Dependable – Being dependable is an important part of rebuilding trust with your partner, and learning how to win love back. When you want to learn how to win love back, you need to learn how to follow through with the promises that you make, and you need to make an effort to be on time with the appointments that you make.

* Listen Actively – Communication is one of the most vital ingredients in every healthy relationship, so if you want to learn how to win love back, you need to learn how to communicate more effectively. Not only does this mean that you need to learn how to speak better, but also learning how to listen better as well. This is one of the true keys to learning how to win love back, and no relationship is solid without healthy and proactive communication.

* Act! – Keep in mind that all relationships have ups and downs, even the best ones. If you want to learn how to win love back, you need to be willing to learn how to take action and repair the problems in our relationship. You cannot simply sit back and wait for the relationship problems to go away on their own, as this will make your partner feel alienated more than anything. So if you are ready to learn how to win love back, take the aforementioned advice to heart and take action once and for all.

Why Let Financial Problems Ruin Your Marriage Is money so hard to understand?

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Financial problems in a marriage are definitely a true relationship killer and one of the most common marriage problems that unnecessarily result in divorce.

Money matters are quite simple when you think about it. You can either afford something or you can’t and, if you can’t you have two choices, either stop spending money elsewhere or earn more money.

I’m looking for a new car at the moment which has really got me thinking about the number of people who fund such purchases on finance then struggle to make the repayments. Now I can understand the need for a car and that people aren’t always in the position to buy such an expensive item out right, but what does amaze me is the type of vehicles that people buy on finance.

One of my best friends always buys cars on credit and not any old car, cars such as range rovers, and Mercedes and yet struggles to make monthly loan repayments let alone fund the financing on the car. As a family they look at us and envy the fact that we don’t have to worry when an unexpected bill comes in or if we want something we can just go out and buy it without any concern. That’s because we follow the main golden rule for avoiding financial problems in a marriage, we never spend what we haven’t got and we don’t waste money on unnecessary interest repayments.

It’s quite a simple concept really, if we want something that isn’t critical we wait for it, we only buy what we can afford. If we needed to take out finance for a car we would buy something that would do the job but not a luxury vehicle. Have you ever seen how many luxury cars are repossessed and go through the auctions? What a waste, just look at what is lost in the initial deposit and interest and then the cars lost and sold for peanuts to more the financially astute.

Anyway, back to my friends, there marriage is always under strain because financial problems are continually at the forethought of their minds. They never know from one month to another how they will fund the next mortgage payment or car repayment. Petty things get blown out of perspective because stress levels run high which all stems from the financial problems in the marriage. They get upset with each other and yet they are both to blame, they both want what they can’t afford and even though they earn far more than most, with every penny they earn their expectations increase, their spending increases and the financial problems continue.

So many couples let themselves into financial problems just because they choose to ignore money issues, expect them to disappear, resolve themselves without any effort but, just like any other marriage problem financial issues need to be addressed, nipped in the bud before they become out of hand.

Fighting isn’t the answer, arguing doesn’t solve anything and it certainly doesn’t address the real cause of the problem which is all down to supply and demand. In doesn’t really matter how the original problem occurred, why money is now short and why bills cant be paid and generally the fault doesnt tend to lie with one person, the question is how soon are you both going to face up to the issue, get your head out of the clouds and start doing something about it.

I was speaking to a friend the other night and he was fighting an issue from a totally different corner from his wife to be, forgetting the whole concept that marriage is all down to team work, working together to resolve anything that life throws at you. When you loose focus, fail to see what really matters in life, start arguing and fighting against each other rather than working together to sort such issues out you start to chip away at the very foundations of what could be a solid relationship.

No matter how your financial problems in your marriage developed, blissful ignorance, loan money happy, making an important financial decision without discussing it or just spending too much every week, you have to now sit down together, focus on the issue at hand, forget what has happened in the past, how you got into the situation in the first place and put all your time and energy into sorting it out.

Don’t blame anyone, don’t go looking for a fight just sit down, detail your spending, detail your earnings and then work out how you close the gap. Support each other through the process, work together towards the same goal which is to learn to live within your means whether that be through working more hours, retraining for a higher paid job, finding opportunities to earn extra cash from home or just accepting you are living outside your means and working out how you can spend less. Don’t let financial problems cloud your marriage, sort them out before you destroy something very special and live to regret it.

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